I have been thinking a lot about perfection....
It is something that so many people strive for and something that I admit to strive for in some areas of my life. Don't get me wrong, I don't think that this is a bad thing but taken to the extreme it can make a negative impact in your life as well as those around you. Here are my thoughts...
I found myself the other evening worrying about the cleanliness of my house (I don't have a maid) and the laundry that I still needed to do in order to "keep up" with my self-imposed expectations of myself. When my house is a mess and I feel overwhelmed after coming home from work and feeding and bathing the girls and wondering if my house will ever be as clean as I really want, I can get a little cranky. :-) My strive for perfection takes it's toll on my girls and my family. I know that the girls don't care if the laundry is folded and Brian doesn't get upset if the floors are not swept every other day and I hope that my friends wouldn't compare their house to mine if they stopped by and found the counter cluttered with mail I have yet to go through. No one is perfect! (I know that I have said this before but it does us all some good to hear it again, including me!)
In today's world a women has so many roles and with many it is a race to see who can juggle these roles perfectly while attaining the best husband, house, career, children. My heart is torn for those I see striving for this unattainable goal whether they realize it or not and for what I can see in my own life as being too goal-driven. And I admit that it is easy to get caught up in striving for perfection. But no life is perfect and the sooner we all realize this, the more fulfilled we will be. How can we give those around us our ALL when we are so focused on so many "balls in the air." It can be too much and can effect our family as well as our friends even when we think we have it all under control...do we really??
You can spend a lifetime, and, if you're honest with yourself, never once was your work perfect. ~Charlton Heston
I came upon this and I agree. It helps me to realize again that it is not about perfections of our "works" but more about the relationships with others and with God and when we can admit our faults and let others see that we are not perfect, it can bring new meaning into these relationships.
Perfection....now all I have to do is let go, will you?.....
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Sus-
I love your post. No, I LOVE your post. I love the your transparency and honesty! I can't agree more. I find myself doing the exact same thing. How many times have I not wanted to have people over because of my perfection in my house, when really, all I did was bypass a great opportunity with friends or family. No one is perfect. I love that you own up to it. I know I'm not perfect - you're welcome at my house ANYTIME!!!! Just don't look at the counters or floors - hee hee. Or the chair and ottoman with all my laundry in it. You know which one I'm talkin' about!!!!!! Love you. Kitty.
Sus,
Wonderful entry. This really hit home for me and I thank you for putting it into perspective. Well said! I related to everything that you said in that entry, and felt like that was written for me.
MAN you are good! This is something I've been doing some self improvement the past few weeks. It feels good to let go of this need for perfection. Someone recently told me that they feel this could be deep-rooted and comes from parents instilling in their kids the need to be "THE BEST" at everything. She thinks this should be changed to parents teaching their kids to give everything their best effort.
xoxo,
Heather Argueta
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